Oh, January. You can either love it (fresh start, goals setting, planning), or hate it (goals setting, planning…).
I really hope you love it, but if you don’t, I have something for you that might just change your mind.
I know, everyone starts to talk about goals setting this time of the year, and if you’re not a PRO at setting your goals, you must probably be quite frustrated or bored with all this talk. But I’m not going to talk to you about it because of the New Year – I set goals for myself all year round, and I will try to persuade you, you should too.
Maybe you’ve set your goals before and never achieved them? This isn’t very motivating and some of my friends think it’s best to just go with the flow and not set them at all, as they’re unlikely to be achieved anyway (I’m working on persuading them it’s not true!).
If you’re not an enthusiast of goals setting and planning for the New Year, it might be because of one (or all) of those reasons:
- You’ve set your goals before and didn’t hit them. You felt disappointed with yourself and thought it’s best to just go with the flow and don’t do the whole planning and measuring thing at all.
- You’re afraid you won’t hit your goal, so you prefer not to put it on paper. Again, go with the flow and do your best is the option you prefer to go with.
- You’re thinking: what if I change my mind in the process? If I write my goals down and then won’t want to pursue them anymore, it will look like I’ve failed.
Lovely lady, if one of the above is what you said YES to, I’d really like to talk toy for about it! I know exactly how it feels not to hit your goals. I did that so many times, I can’t count anymore! But I also know why I failed on most times: lack of planning, measurable milestones and clarity.
Set your goals the right way
Each of your goals needs to be: realistic, actionable, measurable and exciting!
When I say realistic, I don’t mean you shouldn’t set yourself goals that are ambitious and make you grow. No, I mean you should present those goals to yourself in a way that feels attainable.
For example: if you’re now only earning $20k, you probably won’t believe you’ll hit 6 figures by the end of the year. But what does $40k feel like? Does it feel realistic to you?
Remember: you need to believe you can do it, otherwise you will drop it at the first tough day.
WHAT do you want, exactly?
Whenever I speak to my friends who don’t like goals setting, I bring up the losing weight example: if you’d like to lose weight and just say “I want to lose weight in 2017”, it’s not a very actionable goal.
How much would you like to lose exactly? Losing weight itself doesn’t give you any information as to when you will actually achieve it. You don’t have clarity and you think this goal is actually too big, it overwhelms you (especially if you have 20+ pounds to loose).
You need to get really, really clear about what you’d like to do, or achieve. You should be able to visualise it, see what it looks or feels like. What do you want to get, create, do? Who do you want to become? What do you want to experience? Be exact and don’t be afraid to put it out to the Universe. If you don’t decide on it, you won’t be able to do it.
Be realistic and write down when will you know you achieved it. Again, the losing weight example:
Wrong goal: I want to lose weight.
Good goal: I want to lose 5 pounds by the end of March 2017.
See the difference? The first goal is not attainable and actionable. You wouldn’t even know when should you be happy you achieved it: after losing 1 pound, 3 pounds?
The second goal is clear and easy to measure: when you hit 5 pounds, you know you succeeded and it will give you more motivation, to do even more.
Why do you want it?
You can achieve whatever you want, but you need to emotion-charge your goal. This means you need to set a clear goal, without being afraid of failing and with trust in your abilities. You need to decide WHY you’d like to achieve it and bring out all the emotions of excitement into this goal. Then you need to imagine how awesome you’ll feel when you achieve it. You need to actually feel it now.
Humans are not made to achieve thing they don’t somehow believe in. See, you need to want it, to get it. And if you don’t see the point, don’t believe or do it purely for someone else, or because you think you should, I’m almost certain you won’t achieve it. #harshtruth
The best motivation there can be, is the one that comes from within. I don’t know about you, but since I was a little girl I would never do something just because someone “says so”. My parents had a really tough time making me do anything because we always needed to have a conversation and I needed to understand WHY I’m supposed to do it. As soon as I did, I was usually very quick in changing my habits, achieving goals or working on my character. But I needed to want it, myself. Even if it was for other’s sake – I needed to see the point, the reason, to be willing to put my effort in it.
Take a piece of paper and journal for a while. Ask yourself these questions:
Why do I want to do it / have it / experience it?
In what ways will this make me a happier, better person?
Why do I deserve it?
If I don’t do it this year, will I still want to do it next year?
How will I feel when I achieve it?
Don’t be afraid, to be honest with yourself and really realise your motivation. You don’t need to have noble reasons to want something. If you want to start your own business purely because you hate your 9-5 and all your bosses and want to simply be FREE, you can! If you want to make more money so you can buy yourself better clothes, you totally can and should! And you deserve it.
If there’s something on your goal list, that you think you SHOULD do, first of all, ask yourself: if others didn’t tell you to do it, would you want to do it for any reason?
If not, reevaluate and think if you really should spend your energy on it.
How do you plan, to achieve?
Now that you know what and why, think about what’s the easiest way to achieve it. Yes, don’t overcomplicate things, you don’t need to work yourself to the point of exhaustion to get things done. Think about the easiest, most natural way for you to do it.
Write down a few ideas and then try to think which one feels right.
The reason for planning is simple: you need to see the big picture, but what gets stuff done are small, consistently taken actions, you do every day.
So, if you’d like to earn more this year, focus on the small things you can do every day, to bring more value to people you work with and be able to charge more and bring more clients on board. Or work on some passive income streams: create a product or a course you can sell. Start today.
If you want to be healthier and more grounded with yourself this year (this is actually my goal), think about the things you can do every day to become this person. For me, it’s giving myself permission to listen to my inner voice, meditation and yoga, more exercise and me time.
Then plan your milestones: dates when you will check-in and see if you’re on the right track. Those days are for you to make sure what you’re doing brings results you wanted, remind yourself your WHY and regain motivation and write down progress (the last one really, really gives you a kick of motivation!).
Don’t make a mistake of not having the check-ins – some people only do their best and wait for the deadline to see if they’ve done what they wanted to do. But if your goal requires at least few months of consistent work, you will not see you’re not on the right track and will waste time otherwise. Check your progress and don’t be afraid to change the course a little if necessary.
Now download my goal setting workbook and get to work, lady!
I know you’re ambitious and you’ve got loads to do and achieve. I know you have the potential. Don’t let a lack of preparation and clarity to block you from achieving whatever you want to achieve because you’re better than that.
You’re an entrepreneur – a born achiever! Let’s get to it right now – download your free workbook below.
What are your goals for 2017?
Now share your goals with me, I am dying to know what you will be focusing on this year!